Am I Enabling Someone With an Addiction?

Addiction is a disease that affects millions of Americans. Addicts often turn to their family and friends for support in times of need. However, things that you assume are helpful might be enabling their substance use. If you’re concerned that you are hindering a loved one’s recovery, here are some common signs of enabling.

Not Holding Them Accountable

Accountability is a critical part of the recovery process. If your loved one struggles with addiction, it can be counterproductive for you to cover for them when their drug use affects other people. This includes lying to other family members and close friends, claiming that problematic behavior isn’t as bad as it seems, or blaming external circumstances. Addiction recovery is a long, winding road, and you should acknowledge that this process can be difficult. However, holding your loved one accountable for the consequences of their actions is the key to a healthy relationship.

Providing Financial Backing

Because it can be tough for addicts to maintain a job or cover the costs of their addiction, you may be tempted to offer your loved one financial support. This can include loaning them money, letting them stay at your house for extended periods, and even paying for their addictive substance or outlet. Though it is understandable that you don’t want to see them struggle, this is often counterproductive and can become an expensive habit. There’s nothing wrong with providing some form of monetary support, but you should establish and stick to boundaries for helping them out financially.

Resisting Treatment

Treatment programs, therapy, and support groups are all productive options for addressing addiction. If an addict’s family discourages or stigmatizes treatment, they may be less likely to seek help. Even if you think that you can help them with their addiction, it’s always a good idea to work with licensed professionals and programs with a track record of working with addicts.

When friends and family members enable a loved one’s addiction, they’re usually just trying to help. Unfortunately, this is not a substitute for treatment. At Recovery Place, you and your loved one will find a comfortable environment where they can work toward addiction recovery and a more fulfilling life. We offer a range of treatment services, including online options, to assist with the recovery process. For more information or to schedule a tour, contact us today.